Imperfections and all

How often do you find yourself being critical and angry at someone else for not doing something perfectly? You get all wrapped up in how incompetent the person must be because they aren’t doing something the way it should so obviously be done. Is that the same harsh criticism you use on yourself?

So often, we think that there is ONE perfect way to do something. But it isn’t true. There are countless different ways to do things, or to think about things, or paths to take - that all make up this incredible experience of life. If someone chooses something other than what you would, it doesn’t make them wrong, it simply means they are taking a different path and learning different things. Each choice, action or path offers us an opportunity for new experiences and growth. But getting stuck in the mindset that there is only one way, creates incredible internal pressure to make the “right” choice and take the “right” action which can often leave us lost in harsh criticism of ourselves and unable to take action. Each of us is perfect with our imperfections. Life is about learning and growing as a person, and it is also about fully embracing who you are – imperfections and all.

Spend some time this week considering how often you criticize others and then dive deep within yourself and notice how often you criticize yourself. Then take a little time and try to embrace yourself with greater compassion and understanding. See if that shifts the way you feel about others also.

I would love to hear from you if you have any personal stories, experiences or comments for me about this.